What's a Meantime Girl?

hmm..meantime girl..NOT!

- Author Unknown

She's the one you call when you're bored because she makes you laugh. She's the one you talk to when you're feeling down because she's willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She's not the one you call when you need a date to your company's Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She's the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know, she's the one who you keep around in the meantime. She's not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a "real" woman, either. She's not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She's too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She's too understanding, too comfortable - she doesn't make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she's cool , and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you're lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she'll do just fine. You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You're not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She's not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she'll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that she'll be able to cope with the fact that this isn't the beginning of a relationship or that there's any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you've been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She'll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She's just so cool . . . why can't all women be like that?! But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you isn't important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it's really not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think she's good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it's mostly her fault, because she doesn't have to give in to your needs - she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn't pull it off. Maybe she's too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at a factory. Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman. She doesn't captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She's safe. She doesn't want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you've ever known because she's had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you've given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is. Anyway, yeah. I'm a Meantime Girl. Been one for him. For how long, I can't remember. I don't ! know the reason, really, and at this point I don't even care. I just want to let every guy know who's ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot. And someday we won't be around.

The One that Got Away

Source: The Manila Times
By: Mark J. Macapagal

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom
you shared something special, ones who will always mean something.
There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one
you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one
you're with... and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who
everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was
just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in
the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I
suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a
longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I
can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater
part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you
being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes
beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When
you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter
who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big;
inconsequentials become dealbreakers simply because you're not ready
and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are no
good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become
the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens
you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be
the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to
ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready.
It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And
it'll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and
you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different,
your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and
what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly
arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come.
Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term
relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't
matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason,
the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were
here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me
as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is. The
biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one
that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you
think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But
hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with
the one you're with and this is just another test of your
commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you
get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but
it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but
it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In
which case it's the same thing. You just have to accept and know
that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little
smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and
reminiscing.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you
do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her. Because
the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always
wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if
you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just
might be "the one that got away" as well for the person who is
your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a
difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into
place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great
feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're
the one that ALMOST got away."


From: Tomboc, Kriss
Sent: Tuesday, July 19, 2005 8:58 AM

The Art of Letting Go

by Consrael

It's over. He's gone. Why do we have to part while the love is still there?

Why do we have to suffer?

Why do we have to cry when somebody bids goodbye?

Why do beginnings have an end?

Why do we have to meet only to lose in the end? There are questions left unanswered, words left unsaid, letters left unread, poems left undone, songs left unsung, love left unexpressed, promises left unfulfilled. In a relationship, one of the hardest things to do is saying goodbye and letting go.

It is as hard as breaking a crystal because you'll never know when you will be able to pick up the pieces again.

More often than not, they who go feel not the pain of parting: it is they who stay behind that suffer, because they are left with memories of a love that was meant to be, a love that was. At the beginning and at the end of a relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as it may seem, but that's the way love goes. That's the drama, the bittersweet and the risk of falling in love.

After all, nothing is constant but change.

Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when, without us knowing how, without us even knowing why.

And we must forget not because we have to but because we have to. In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in battalion.

It seems that everywhere you go, everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye and every breath you take always reminds you of him.

It's like a stab of a knife, a torture in the night.

Funny how the whole world becomes depopulated when only one person is missing.

Just imagine, there are billion people on earth and yet it seems you feel lonely and empty without the other. I don't know if it's worth calling an art, but letting go entails special skills sparkled with a considerable space and time.

Time heals all wounds but it takes a little push on our part. Acceptance plays a part.

Not all love stories end with "...and they live happily ever after." Sometimes we have to part because of circumstances beyond our control.

We have to suffer if it would mean happiness for others.

We have to cry to temporarily let go of the pains.

Every beginning has its end like every dawn has its dusk.

It's something we can't control, something we had to live up. It's over.

He's gone. But life has to go on.

Goodbye doesn't always mean forever.

There will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, and poems will be recited in the night, songs will be sung in harmony, love will be expressed in solitude and promises will be fulfilled.

Somewhere. Somehow. Someday.

From: Rodis, Rachel Ann
Sent: Friday, May 20, 2005 4:32 PM

Women are like apples on trees

The best ones are at the top of the tree.

The men don't want to reach for the good ones

because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt.

Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground

that aren't as good, but easy.

So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them,

when in reality, THEY'RE amazing.

They just have to wait for the right man to come along,

the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to

the top of the tree.



YOU'RE A GOOD APPLE.


From: Lopez, Just
Sent: Monday, June 20, 2005 6:07 AM

Top 10 signs that she's a keeper

by Jonathan Carlson

I must admit that playing the field is a whole lot of
fun, but so is being in a serious relationship --
provided that it's with the right woman. But how do
you know if she really is the right woman for you?
If she possesses the following 10 traits, my advice is
that you hold on to her for dear life. You don't want
to run the risk of having some other guy swoop down
and steal her away from you.

10. She's independent
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once
in a while -- like if she's had a rough day at work --
it's great to be her shoulder to cry on. But if she
can't seem to function without you and is constantly
after you, she will eventually make you feel like
you're suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you
running for the nearest exit. On the other hand, if
she has her very own personality and opinions; can
stand on her own two feet, both financially and
emotionally; and is able to enjoy time away from you
(while still missing you, of course) then she must be
a great girlfriend.

9. She's intelligent
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo
routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet
you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on.
Instead of being the one in total control, you'll find
yourself trying to figure out what's really going on
in that brain of hers.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and
keep you on your toes -- she won't let you get bored
of her. Besides, it's nice to have something to talk
about when you're not, er, otherwise occupied.

8. She's sexual
A great girlfriend has to be sexually compatible with
you. For instance, if you're the hardcore leather type
and she's the dainty lingerie type, well, that could
be a problem. The two of you have to be on the same
page -- or she at least has to be willing to expand
her sexual horizons from time to time.

7. She's beautiful
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important
nonetheless. A great girlfriend will not only want to
look good for you, but also for herself. She should
always look her best and be well put together.

6. She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This
means that she listens to you, even if she doesn't
necessarily agree with what you're saying. And, of
course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in
any way, shape, or form.

5. She lets you be a man
Do not -- I repeat -- do not get involved with a woman
who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit
for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night
with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than
you can imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy
in all your glory, poker night and all. If she's a
great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your
buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her
famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are different
and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you
wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with her best
girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the
guys for her.

4. She's nagless
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend
knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows
when to speak-up and when to let it slide. You don't
want a girlfriend who will give you the heights of
hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink
occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all
night without calling her, and she lets you have it,
then you're setting yourself up for disaster. This is
a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a
great girlfriend.

3. She gets along with friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the
kitchen, listen to your dad's stories, and hang out
with your friends, she will enjoy it. She'll make a
real effort to get to know and love the most important
people in your life. And she won't try to get you to
ditch your best buds.
She'll actually empathize with your brother's getting
dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer
him up. Not only that, but your friends won't roll
their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be
joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women
like this do exist).

2. She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you
really are and not who you pretend or try to be
sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A
woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find.
Of course, everyone has their slightly annoying habits
that their mate has to contend with, but if she really
loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by
observing the way she looks at you and treats you on
an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn't seem to
faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to
care about what you have to say, she's either playing
very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if
a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her
light up, there's no denying that she loves you.

1. She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face... Any man who has a great
girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him
want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say or do
anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel
bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself
trying to get your finances in order, you might want
to think about your motivation for doing so. It could
be love.
do you already have her?


From: Lopez, Just
Sent: Friday, May 06, 2005 9:04 AM

Reasons & Seasons

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime... When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; theirwork is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on...When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy... Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season... LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons--those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (any way); andput what you have learned to use in all other relationships
and areas of your life.

Scarred People Are Beautiful

by:Rev. Charles Cooke

Man speaks:
I've seen a number of movies lately, Lord like Romeo and Juliet.
The love of young people, at least in those movies, is beautiful... so simple... so total... so uncomplicated.
They seem so natural, so free in their emotions, so clear in their feelings. I wish I could be like that, Lord, but it can't be. Why is it so?
I've been hurt, Lord. I have trusted and been betrayed at times. I have loved and received nothing in return.
I have tried hard to care and failed often. I have shared my secrets and, heard them whispered to others. I have been warm and received a cold shoulder.
I have been through it, Lord. I've fallen on my face. I've banged my shins. I've been bruised. Look, Lord, I'm all covered with scars!
The Lord Speaks:
Maybe you haven't understood enough; Maybe you haven't learned that human life is like that: All saints are scarred.
Young love isn't the highest form of human love. The greatest love comes from scarred people. I know that many people stop loving so they won't be hurt again.
But those people who do start over again, who continue in spite of all, who leave themselves open to the possibility of being hurt again --
These people are able to love again in a deeper way, a more understanding way, a richer way.
Man's response:
I think I know what you mean, Lord. I've met people like that... and knowing them gives me courage.
The great people are those who continue to love with their scars. I like SCARRED PEOPLE, LORD -- THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL.

The Essence of True Love

If you're afraid to love a person because of
friendship, then you have choices, either to tell
what you feel and let the love take place of forever, or
to hide the feeling under a friendship full of
pretensions.
Love can never be so beautiful without friendship...
one leads to another and the process is
irreversible...the best of lovers are the greatest of friends!!!
Love doesn't have to have a happy ending,
because love doesn't have to end at all.

A man realized he wanted his love back not wanting to
be hurt again. the girl said "no." the man cried out
to God, "if it was meant to be, why did i lose her?"
God replied, "you didn't lose her...you let her go!"

When you love someone, don't expect that person to
love you back the same amount. One of you will be
ahead, the other behind. It's either you catch up or
the other waits.
THINK OF THIS:
have you really cared for someone more than you expect?
Have you ever tried to love him/her inspite of all the pain?
Will you keep on loving him/her as he/she whispers
someone else's name? will you???

True love hears what is not spoken, and understands
what is not explained, for love doesn't work in the
mouth, nor the mind, but in the heart...

When you love, you must not accept anything in return,
for if you do, you're not loving but investing. if
you love, you must prepare to accept pain, for if you
expect happiness, you're not loving but using...

I like you because you're my friend, and because you
are my friend i care, and because i care, i love you,
i don't love you because you are my friend, i love
you because i do!

WHAT IF SOMEONE TELLS YOU THIS:
"don't believe in courtship.
it's just a waste of time.
if i love a person, I'll tell her right away,
but for you I'll make an exception...
just love me now, and I'll court you forever!"

never be afraid to fall in love.
it may hurt a lot, it may give you aches and pains,
but if you don't follow your heart, in the end you
will cry even more for not giving love a chance.

I'm sorry if you can't love me the way you loved the
one before me, so I'll let you go to find him/her and
hope someday you'll see that the one true love you're
looking for was the one who set you free...

ain't it funny we're trying to catch the attention of
the one we think we love? we hardly notice the one
we're really looking for was just there. you don't
notice them 'till they are in the arms of someone
else...

love is like standing on wet cement, the longer you
stay the harder it is to leave ... and you can never
go without leaving your prints behind...

FOOD FOR THOUGHT:
it's better to lose your pride with someone you love
rather than lose that someone you love with your
useless pride.

i can't choose who I'm going to love, but i also
can't just love who chooses to love me...and you can't
blame me in choosing to love you as much as i can't
blame you for not learning to love me.

"how can i say good-bye to someone i never had? why
do tears fall for someone who was never mine? why is
that i miss someone i was never with and i ask why i love
someone who's love was never mine?"

it's hard for two people to love each other when they
live in two different worlds...but when these two
worlds collide and become one, that's what you
call...magic!

don't love a person like a flower,
because a flower dies in season.
love them like a river because a river flows
forever...

"love may leave your heart like shattered glass,
but keep in mind that there's someone who'll be
willing to endure the pain of picking up the pieces
so you could be whole again"

***The most cruel thing a guy could do to a girl is to
let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch
her fall!